Middle’s Birth Story

I guess I knew the end was in sight on Sunday around 6pm.  My MIL had been keeping Poppyseed for us, but on Sunday evening she drove her up from Sealy and we all sat down in the living room to play and do puzzles.  Even though I hadn’t seen Poppyseed in a day and a half, I didn’t feel like playing due to some crampiness and extra Braxton Hicks contractions.  I excused myself to go and take a nap, but I wasn’t able to get comfortable and never fell asleep.

I got up and we all made dinner.  I snuck out the back door as Oatmeal tucked Poppyseed into bed and went to a yoga class.  I came home, baked some paleo treats, and wrote a blog post.  I was pretty antsy during all of that because I was pretty sure I could be in early labor.  There was only one way to find out, and that was to try to go to sleep and see if I could actually drift off.

At midnight I finally got into bed and wondered if I would be able to sleep though the Braxton Hicks contractions that seemed to come every 7-10 minutes.  I slept until 1:30am, when I awoke to use the restroom, and then fell asleep again until around 3am.

It was then that I knew I was going to meet Baby Middle that day.  I laid in bed and timed contractions for a while and noted that they were anywhere from 1-2 minutes long, pretty uncomfortable, and anywhere from 5-8 minutes apart.  I made a silent goal to wait until 5am to call or wake anyone.  I wanted everyone to be rested and clear headed for our big day – Oatmeal and Toni (our midwife) included!  I opened up a book, Supernatural Birth, that I’ve been reading and rereading during my pregnancy and silently read through a prayer in the very back.

At 3:45am I had a contraction that was a game changer.  It really hurt.  It was definitely a real contraction that I could not have talked or walked through.  Once it was over I reached back and tapped Oatmeal, who was sleeping peacefully behind me.  “Go wake up your mom, honey, and tell her to take Poppyseed home with her.   This baby is coming today.”  He got up immediately and left our bedroom, and I walked into the bathroom to empty my bladder.  As I sat down I felt a gush of fluid fall out of me and into the toilet.   I assumed that my water had broken, but when I looked it was all bright red blood.  (If you haven’t been reading my blog, I had two major bleeding episodes at 38 and 39 weeks pregnant.  A trip to the ER determined that it wasn’t placenta previa or placental abruption, so we were left to wonder what the cause really could be.  Our guess was rupturing vessels because I’ve had a horrible time with varicose veins during this pregnancy, but we were never sure.)

This third sighting of blood made my heart race.  I knew that I could either choose to be scared or choose to be calm.  I chose to be calm and dialed Toni.  She answered on the second ring and I told her that I was fairly certain I was in early labor and had just experienced another gush of blood.  It was easily enough blood to soak through several large maxi pads.  She told me she would be at our house soon and arrived shortly.  She checked Middle’s heart rate and my blood pressure, which were both strong.  We talked about her checking to see if I was dilated, but because of my bleeding and because I tested positive for Group B strep during pregnancy, we decided not to check just yet.

From about 5am-7am there wasn’t much action.  Toni and her student, Candice, prepared our bedroom for the birth.  They stripped our bed and put plastic between the sheets and pillowcases, covered some carpeted areas with pads and towels, used a crock pot to warm compress towels, and set out various types of medical equipment.  To be honest, I looked a little bit at what they were doing but tried to focus more on myself.  I didn’t want my labor to stall.  When I was having contractions I would try my very hardest to relax every single part of my pelvis.  I kept telling myself that the more I relaxed and let my body stretch, the fewer painful contractions I’d have to go through.  Some of them were hard and some weren’t as bad during that time.  I would walk up and down our stairs, stand in front of my fridge and eat grapes, and move around on the birth ball in between them.  They came around every 4-5 minutes at that point.  Oatmeal was really good about being nearby during contractions and massaging my lower back.  It seemed like he knew exactly where he needed to apply pressure.  Toni took my blood pressure and the baby’s heart rate at regular intervals throughout this time, and every time she did it was perfect.

Around mid-morning things began to pick up. I decided to take a shower because the constant trickle of blood was bothering me, and I wondered if the warm water would help me to further relax and speed things up.  I stood in the shower with the hot water hitting my lower back and leaned forward against the wall.  I didn’t want anyone to bother or talk to me during that time, and everyone must have gotten the hint because no one did!  Every time a contraction would come, I’d try to relax and imagine my body doing what it needed to do.  I’d envision my hips widening and my cervix dilating.  I also tried to imagine my baby’s head and body lowering further and further in my body.  I prayed several times that my body would do what it needed to do and that there would not be any problems.  I don’t know what it was about that shower, but it really seemed to help with my comfort!

Eventually I realized that I had probably gone through at least 7 or 8 contractions, and I should probably get out and dry off so that Toni could monitor mine and the baby’s heart rate.  At this point in the story it gets a little fuzzy for me.  I sat back down on the birth ball near Oatmeal and the contractions intensified even more.  I started to feel a little bit exhausted and asked for a towel.  I positioned myself so that I was on the birth ball and leaning forward onto my bed with my head on the towel.  The purpose of the towel was to keep my eyes dry, because I had started quietly crying.  Even though I knew that crying was an indication that I could be coming up on transition (the stage between active labor and when it’s time to push and have the baby) I was still afraid to ask Toni to check my cervix.  What if she finally checked me and I was a 3?  We eventually decided to check anyway and I was so excited to hear her say, “Well, you’re almost complete.  Just a little cervix in the way.”  Oh sweet joy, I was almost a 10!  It wasn’t even 9am!  Our goal had been “Baby by lunch” but now we may just have “Baby by brunch!”

At that point I remember people asking me some questions about how I wanted to have the baby.  Did I prefer to push on the bed, or on the birth stool?  I sat on the birth stool during one contraction and immediately knew that was not going to work.  I went back to my birth ball and willed my body to open up the last little bit that it needed to.  I think someone suggested that I get checked again, and during that check I was lying on my back on the bed.  As soon as she got finished checking me, a contraction began to hit and I was 100% sure that if I was lying on my back when it did I was going to die from pain!  I didn’t know what else to do other than flip over and get on my hands and knees, and that is exactly how I stayed until Middle was born!

I will admit that being on my hands and knees was not the most ladylike and graceful position, but to be honest, I kind of always had a hunch that I would deliver Middle that way.  Someone had the brilliant idea to put the birth ball right in front of me on the bed.  I could lean forward onto it during contractions and push.

Pushing was like nothing I have ever felt, even with my first birth.  When I gave birth to Poppyseed (a natural birth in a hospital) I pushed in the traditional fashion in a hospital bed.  From what I remember, pushing felt really good compared to transition!  With this birth, however, the tables were turned.  Transition wasn’t too bad, but pushing was some serious work and quite painful.

Oatmeal tells me that I pushed about 5 times total.   Each “push” lasted about a minute, with about 3 minutes of rest in between.  What I noticed the most about this stage was the way I would run out of energy before the contraction ended.  I would feel it begin and start to push, but before the contraction was over my body would seem to weaken and give up.  Despite this frustration on my part, things moved quickly.  The first push was productive, but I think that Toni said that I still had cervix in the way.  She asked me if I wanted her to try to move it during the next push, and Oatmeal answered “Yes!” for me because I was completely zoned out.  During the second push she was able to move that small bit of cervix so that the path was clear for Baby Middle’s head.  The third push made me feel like my lower half was literally going to explode.  I could definitely tell that the baby’s head was extremely close to coming out.  I could hear everyone’s encouraging voices saying things like, “You are doing SO great, you are so strong.  That was such a good push.”  On the fourth push I gave it everything I had and remember hearing Toni tell me, “You’re birthing your baby Lola, your baby’s head is crowning, good good good, keep going.”  Her tone was encouraging but firm, and I tried to do exactly what she told me to do.  I felt the baby’s head come out and then the contraction ended.  WHAT!?  I now have to sit here on my hands and knees for several minutes and wait for the next contraction to get the baby out?  My mind was literally about to blow up because on one hand, I was thinking to myself that there was absolutely no way I could keep going.  I was conscious of the fact that I was covered in sweat, I felt a really bad stinging pain, and yes, even at that primal moment I was a little embarrassed that my rear was exposed and in the air with my husband right there and able to see!  (I even remember telling everyone just before my first push that only Toni was allowed to look at my bottom.  Some things never change, and my modesty is one of them!)

Finally I felt a contraction start to build.  I knew that I was not going to want to do this again, so I pushed with everything I had in me so that I could finally meet my baby.  The feeling I got when I felt the baby’s shoulders and body pass through me is something I can barely even begin to describe.  I immediately leaned up and turned around to see my baby.  Toni had already suctioned the nose and passed me a wet, slippery, and PERFECT little baby!  At first I couldn’t see the gender because the umbilical cord was in the way, but then I saw between the baby’s legs and said, “Honey it’s a boy!”

This may look awkward, but I can assure you it's a mighty fine position for birthing a baby.

This may look awkward, but I can assure you it’s a mighty fine position for birthing a baby.

I like how calm Oatmeal seems during all of this.  Must be nice to sit back and watch the show.  ;)

I like how calm Oatmeal seems during all of this. Must be nice to sit back and watch the show. 😉

Baby is out!

Baby is out!

Someone hand me my baby!  It's a.... it's a....

Someone hand me my baby! It’s a…. it’s a….

It's a BOY!!!

It’s a BOY!!!

Yay, it's over!  Everyone is happy!

Yay, it’s over! Everyone is happy!  Now can someone please turn up the AC, because I’m sweating like a pig.

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Totally worth it. Absolutely.

I guess the next few minutes were probably what surprised me the most about our birth.  I had expected to immediately relax and nurse with baby for a few minutes, but I was instructed to delivery the placenta.  I vaguely heard someone say, “She has lost enough blood, we need to get this placenta out now.”  Everyone kept telling me to push with contractions.  I’m still not entirely clear on why it was such a hurry or what the placenta had to do with the bleeding, but I trusted the professionals and did as told.  I wasn’t very successful until everyone literally lifted me and put me in the squatting position and I was able to bear down and get rid of the placenta that way.  It felt very good to be finished.

Holding his son for the very first time.

Holding his son for the very first time.

Oatmeal and I spent the next precious moments inspecting and kissing all over our handsome little one.  Toni asked us if baby had a name, and I looked at Oatmeal expectantly.  “John,” he responded.  “John Rapsilver.”  I was excited to hear him name our baby boy with such confidence.  I knew that he had been thinking of that name, but there had been other names in the running and I wasn’t sure which he would choose until that very moment.  John is the name of his father and his brother.  Rapsilver is his grandmother’s maiden name.  It was perfect!

Baby Middle, aka John Rapsilver Griffin.  Born 9:34am, 8lbs 5oz, 21 3/4 inches long.

Baby Middle, aka John Rapsilver Griffin. Born 9:34am, 8lbs 5oz, 21 3/4 inches long.

It wasn’t long before our room had been transformed back to normal, I had taken a shower in my very own bathroom, and Toni made me the most amazing adult diaper I’ve ever felt.  (Ha.)  The recovery has been a breeze because I didn’t even tear, despite having a baby that weighed nearly 1.5lbs more than my firstborn.  Little Johnny has been the most laid back baby, and we are loving these first moments with him as we adjust to being a family of FOUR!

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Comments

  1. Your amazing Laura!! Congratulations! Great story.

  2. Heather Thompson says:

    Wow. You are amazing! Congratulations to all!

  3. Karington says:

    WOW. You amaze me. And the Mom of the Year award goes to…. 🙂

  4. How did your midwife address the GBS??

    • When I tested positive, she explained what GPS was and told me the benefits and risks of taking antibiotics at the onset and during labor. She advised that I take the antibiotics, but ultimately left the decision up to me.

  5. Debbie Neumann says:

    Congratulations….he’s beautiful !!!!!.Gigi

  6. Fran Woulard says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I am so proud of you and for you. My niece is an amazing and strong woman. Young John is perfectly beautiful!

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