Middle is a Week Old!

I cannot believe that an entire week has passed since we welcomed Baby Middle into the world.  I know I just called him his blog nickname, Middle, but I want to make a sort of announcement of sorts that we have decided to call him Johnny.  We debated between John and Johnny for the first day or two, and both just love Johnny.  Either way we would have had a duplicate at most family gatherings, since Oatmeal’s dad goes by Johnny and his brother goes by John.  For some reason when we looked at Middle, Johnny just seemed to fit him.  So there you have it.  🙂

Anyway… back to speaking in blog code names.  Here are some updates on our Baby Middle at 1 week of age!

I just read the post I wrote when Poppyseed was exactly this age, and I could practically cut and paste it all here and it would still apply.  The first week has really just involved a constant rotation of nursing him, changing him, letting him sleep, and… trying to figure out what to do when he cries.  😉  The main difference is that our house now is MUCH more noisy than back then!  We used to tiptoe around Poppyseed, hesitating to even start the dishwasher if she was sleeping in the next room.  This time we have a loud 2 year old, so all bets are off.  It’s loud around here.  Thankfully he sleeps right through it.

Nursing has been exactly the same and yet a little easier.  I let Poppyseed nurse on demand when she was born, only I made the mistake of allowing her to pacify a little too much and ended up very damaged.  I’ve become terribly engorged with each baby, and I think that leads to the baby having a very shallow and therefore painful latch.  I used to cry in pain during feedings and literally dread nursing Poppyseed.  It took about 5-6 weeks to heal and get to the point where I could be comfortable during a feeding, and even then we would have hills and valleys until she was much older.  There were many, many days where I wanted to give up.

Well, I learned from my mistakes and was really proactive about finding a lactation consultant this time!  I had an Internationally Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) named Kimberly come to my house at 2 days postpartum.  (Local friends, her website is here and I cannot recommend her more!) Kimberly watched us nurse and latch and said everything looked good.  At that time we weren’t having any issues other than some major severe engorgement, but I still felt like having her come to the house and check on us would be beneficial.  Because she wanted to be thorough, she asked if she could wash her hands and look inside Middle’s mouth to see if he had a lip or tongue tie, but added that based on how well he was eating it would be unlikely that he had anything.  We were both surprised to see that he actually had a pretty critical tongue tie.  His tongue was completely anchored to the bottom of his mouth.  I know that babies with tongue ties typically have great difficulties nursing, but he seemed to be doing fine, so we weren’t sure what to make of it.

However, the following day was a turning point.  He went from having the right amount of wet and dirty diapers to going 48 hours without a dirty diaper at all.  Now if you are a parent, you know that a newborn baby is supposed to have at least SOMETHING in there every day!  We feared that he wasn’t getting enough of my milk and went straight to the doctor on Friday.  He was only 5 days old.  The doctor looked at his mouth and agreed that his tongue tie was quite extensive.   She clipped it right then.  I was a W-R-E-C-K about this (internally at least, though I tried to appear calm) but actually the clipping wasn’t bad at all.  I am so glad we went ahead and did that, because as soon as she clipped his tongue my engorgement began to improve and he started producing 6 or more dirty diapers a day.  He also went from being extremely gassy to having no gas at all.  We think that he was probably only getting my foremilk, but didn’t have the tongue function to stimulate a letdown and get the hindmilk.  This would explain why he managed to gain a bit of weight, but stopped having dirties and became so gassy.

So as you can tell, I am so very grateful that I was proactive in hiring Kimberly.  She identified a problem before it even showed up, making it easy to correct.  It was still stressful and scary in the moment, but definitely much easier than if we hadn’t known!

I’m still dealing with some major engorgement (I pumped 12 ounces of milk at 2.5 days postpartum in an effort to “reset” myself and fully empty those suckers) but today has actually been a lot better than other days.  I hope to be a little more comfortable every day, and at least I’m building up a good stash of milk for the freezer!

Otherwise, we are just sort of over here going through the motions of surviving and thriving with a new baby.  The first few weeks are a blur of sweetness and difficulty all rolled into one.  It brings out the best and the worst in any parent, and I’m trying very hard to enjoy every moment and forgive myself if I fall short!  Oatmeal stayed home all last week, and today he went back to work.  I really did him a solid last night by waking him up at 4am and saying, “Babe, I’ve been up since 2:30am and I just can’t do it anymore.  Please do something with this wide awake and fussy baby.”  Oatmeal got up without hesitation, put on some clothes and took our little munchkin downstairs.  He paced the back yard from about 4am-5am until Middle finally went to sleep.  (In the meantime our dog went into battle with an opossom and Oatmeal had to send it into the next world with a shovel, but that is another story for another day.  Gotta love a man who can soothe a baby and deal with, er, wildlife.)

We’ve had lots of fun visits and introductions with family and friends, given him his first bath, and let Poppyseed hold and kiss him more times than any of us can count.   Life is good, if not a little exhausting, over at Lola and Oatmeal’s house.  Stay tuned….

I sometimes can't believe I have two kids!

I sometimes can’t believe I have two kids!

We are getting much more use out of the My Little Lamb swing with this baby.

We are getting much more use out of the My Little Lamb swing with this baby.

I took Poppyseed to Starbucks a few days ago for some special girl time.  I have missed the one-on-one time with her.

I took Poppyseed to Starbucks a few days ago for some special girl time. I have missed the one-on-one time with her.

All she wanted to do at Starbucks was "brush your hair so pretty, mommy."  So, I let her.

All she wanted to do at Starbucks was “brush your hair so pretty, mommy.” So, I let her.

We ventured out to a friend's house on Sunday and showed off our new nugget!  Here is Middle with his future BFF, Duke.

We ventured out to a friend’s house on Sunday and showed off our new nugget! Here is Middle with his future BFF, Duke.

Everyone keeps asking how Poppyseed is doing with Baby Middle.  She is in LOVE with her little brother.

Everyone keeps asking how Poppyseed is doing with Baby Middle. She is in LOVE with her little brother

I have a love/hate relationship with these bottles/the pump/medela.

Want a little colostrum?  I have a love/hate relationship with these bottles/the pump/medela.

My family of four!  Not the greatest picture but I work with what I've got.

My family of four! Not the greatest picture but I work with what I’ve got.

Baby in a basket.  :)

Baby in a basket. 🙂  Don’t be fooled, he screamed seconds later.

His cord came off at 6 days, so I gave him a bath the next day.  He actually loved it.

His cord came off at 6 days, so I gave him a bath the next day. He actually loved it.

His favorite part was probably the warm towel after the bath.

His favorite part was probably the warm towel after the bath.

Love.  Just love.

Love. Just love.

Okay so maybe we don't always enjoy the swing.

Okay so maybe we don’t always enjoy the swing.

Mommy victory:  I changed his diaper while he slept.  Only a boy...

Mommy victory: I changed his diaper while he slept. Only a boy…

The day that Oatmeal went back to work.  Kinda sad and definitely no time for makeup.

The day that Oatmeal went back to work. Kinda sad and definitely no time for makeup.

Millllllllk.

Millllllllk.

Big sister with baby Middle.  He loves being outside.  The warm weather puts him to sleep immediately.

Big sister with baby Middle. He loves being outside. The warm weather puts him to sleep immediately.

How I found my husband about an hour after he said he was going to put Poppyseed to bed.  I guess all that backyard pacing and opossum killing wore him out.

How I found my husband about an hour after he said he was going to put Poppyseed to bed. I guess all that backyard pacing and opossum killing wore him out.

 

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  1. Oh man. Sometimes I think our experiences are too eerily similar. My firstborn (daughter) was tongue tied. She was posterior (not the heart-shaped), so it was difficult to diagnose, plus most LC’s and pediatricians just aren’t knowledgeable when it comes to tongue ties (or don’t take it seriously). I’m SO SO SO glad you had the support you did to get it diagnosed quickly and taken care of. I didn’t, and she wasn’t diagnosed until she was ten months old…by that time, we were past most of our problems, but at least I finally had closure!! And now I know what to do with this next one, since it’s genetic and he’ll more than likely be tied too (I’m tongue tied, and most everyone in my family was…now it makes sense why my mom gave up so early with breastfeeding!) Anyway, I had a question for you. We had Audra lasered, but to be honest, I think the dr that did it was too conservative, as her tie is still pretty thick. I’d much prefer someone else that just clipped it when they’re newborn, as that seems like it would heal so much quickly. Was yours done with scissors? How was the healing? Has any of it grown back? And lastly, my pediatrician requires the vitamin K shot after delivery due to the possibility of bleeding during the procedure…did you have to get the shot for Johnny? We did Bradley/all natural delivery with Audra, and denied all shots in the hospital the first time. Just wondering if we have to now get the shot to prepare for possible tongue clipping.

    • Oh man! I know, it’s crazy how lucky I got with this because I would have never guessed. I do think our pedi would have caught it (and actually she isn’t a pedi, just a family medicine doctor who most of my friends use as a pedi for their kids because she has 5 kids of her own and just seems to be a wizard and is also vaccination friendly for those of us who want to space out or skip shots). But yes, so fortunate that a LC caught it on day 2 postpartum! To answer your questions…. Yes she used scissors. It was very quick, he didn’t cry any harder or louder when she was clipping than he did at just being laid down on the exam table. She clipped, then immediately handed to me so he could nurse, and then five or so minutes later she checked his tongue for bleeding. It wasn’t bleeding so we were done! There was virtually no healing involved… he wasn’t even fussy that afternoon. I have no idea if it’s grown back? My lactation consultant told me that the action of nursing will possibly even stretch it out further and/or keep it from growing back. She did say that it may not have been clipped back far enough, so I am going to ask the doctor to reexamine at his 2 week appointment and possibly clip it further back if we think it’s necessary. No we didn’t give him a vitamin K shot, and no one mentioned one before the clipping… soo….. hope that helps!

  2. Wow. Again, I just have to say how happy I am for you. It honestly just gives me goosebumps how supportive your whole team has been. Everyone from your birthing team, to your LC, and even your family doctor/pedi sounds amazing!! I wish I lived near you so I could just get your contacts and follow in your footsteps 🙂 Thanks for all the feedback, I hope to find someone who can take care of our LO’s (possible) tongue tie when he comes as quickly and smoothly. All the peds I’ve contacted so far require the vit. K shot, so looks like we may be stuck there. Just want to do my research ahead of time, rather than scramble around 2-3 days postpartum. Thanks again!

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